Ahh cheating. From what I know from
male peers, a cheating woman has a much worse effect on a man’s ego
than a cheating man has to a woman’s. Blame it on the society, we are
all wired to think that a man who cheats is but a man
, but a woman who cheats is scorned and deserves the societal version of hell.
Anyway, no one wants to get cheated on
Cheating is bad either way and thus there is no excuse for it. There is
no scientific study that claims any explanation on how cheating minds
work but thankfully, there are ways you can prevent it from happening.
(Disclaimer: no approved therapeutic claims).
. The golden rule
applies here: “Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do
unto you”. If you don’t want to be cheated on, if you abhor the act,
and if you think it’s immoral, live it like you preach it and don’t
cheat! Stick to your woman, be loyal in thoughts and in deeds and don’t
give her a reason to say “Well, he does it anyway!”
Be a “present” boyfriend
boyfriends are only as good as their urges. They are so soaked up in so
many other things that they forget their girlfriends until they feel
lonely; and that’s when they call their girlfriends. That’s just unacceptable.
Sure distance makes the heart go fonder, but it could also make the
heart go wander. Long distance relationships aren’t even excused. Make
your presence known and felt by your girlfriend wherever you are. Give
her your time and your attention and let her know that she is valuable
to you. She will give it back to you in two-, threefolds.
. If you do not want
your woman to cheat on you, then treat her and other women with
respect. Do not look at women lingeringly – whether you’re with your
girlfriend or not. Do not talk about other women to her or when she’s
around. And do not entertain the thoughts of flirting with other women
even when you’re alone. Respect is earned, not begged for
so if you want your woman to respect you back and not cheat on you,
respect her by not looking at or thinking about other women lustfully.
. Mutual trust is
necessary in relationships. Never be too uptight with her and give her
enough freedom. Oftentimes, it’s the women who have been too choked up
in their current relationships that think about the beauty of being
free with another man.
Make her feel special
. A woman
always needs some form of affirmation and reassurance. Read this article on falling in love
. She needs to
know that she’s special to you and that you love her enough to be the
envy of other women. If you treat your girlfriend the way you treat
other girls, she will feel neglected and she won’t like it. Tell her
how much you love her regularly. Take her on random dates and not just
on special occasions. Remember important dates. Be close to her family.
Call her a special name. Always remind her that you’re thinking about
her. Spend quality time with her. Make love to her. A woman isn’t
always that complicated but she does need consistency from her man.
To some it may not always work, but it’s worth a try. And besides,
everything I’ve mentioned here are the usual things that a boyfriend
should do to her girlfriend.