Nobody wants to be played on
Nobody wants to feel like someone insignificant enough to be somebody’s
toy. Even the best of players around – men and women alike – find their
humanity and touch-base with reality the moment they find themselves
being played on. Okay, so you know how to get the girl you like
. But how do you fool-proof yourself?
The frailty of human emotions and the welfare of one’s ego is always at
stake in these situations. And with boys having bigger egos, I could
only begin to imagine how great the damage a female player could do.
But of course, prevention is still so much better than cure
. Gentlemen, here are ways to prevent yourself from falling victim to these vicious playing ladies.
Also see The Sonic Seduction approach to love and dating
- Know your woman. If she’s
already a known player, don’t take chances. The problem with most men
is that they are guilty of having the ‘hero complex’. And more often
than not, these are the generally good guys – the ones who fall fastest
and deepest. When they see that the playing females are making
flirtatious advances on them, they instantly plan out how to stop her
from being a player. But because she’s a smart, conning expert player,
she ends up triumphant, and he in the ashes. Guys, save yourselves. If
you’ve been told that she’s a player, step back and move away before
she makes any damage.
- Find girls elsewhere.
‘Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are’ applies
perfectly here. If you do not want to be played on, then avoid the
places that players frequent. They are usually where the flirty ones
are. If most of the girls you met at the bar or the dance club are
players, then maybe you should go to the library, the writer’s café,
the local diner or somewhere else with better visibility and presence
of the regular, non-playing women.
- Do not play around.
Remember, what goes around comes around. If you’ve been a player,
expect karma to come knocking in your door one of these days armed with
a beautiful woman for you to fall for – deep and hard – but made to
break your heart. Change your player ways before you get a dose of your
own bitter pill.
- Be a smart boyfriend.
Sometimes, it’s our actions that provoke them players to play on us.
When you guys act all weak, too generous and too obedient to their
girlfriends almost at the point of being her desperate slave, you are
subjecting yourselves to being played on. A manly man is a good
combination of obedience and persistence, of free will and generosity.
You must be sweet enough for your girl to fall for, but firm enough to
gain her respect. And best of all, be in touch with your self-esteem
and keep it at healthy levels all the time. A confident guy will always
earn his woman’s respect.
This is not to blame anyone who’s ever been played on for the fate that
has befallen their love lives. But we need to realize that we – on our
own – must be able to protect ourselves from these sly creatures.
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